What Does Happiness Mean To You?

Taken from the Empowering Questions Deck by Sunnypresent.com

Have you ever just sat in complete stillness and asked yourself “what does happiness mean to me?”

I see it so many times, and I must confess that at one point in time, I thought what made me happy was materialistic items. I wanted to keep up with the Jones, whoever the jones are. Here is another question, who are these Jones? They have a lot to answer to.

Anyway, it took me many years to realise that happiness comes from within. Not in what you have but in what you are grateful for. I am rich beyond belief. I have a wonderful family, I have great friends, I have a nice home, I am no longer full of stress because of a job, I now see beauty all around me. I am fortunate to live in the country and not too far from beautiful beaches, where I absolutely love to walk.

These are all things that I have had my whole life but could not see or appreciate. I took them for granted. I was completely blinded. I thought if I had the latest fashion it would make me happy. I love shoes, and I will admit I was very happy when I bought a new pair, but once they had been worn a few times they just became another pair of shoes, so the hedonistic happiness didn’t last long.

The same can be said when I bought my first brand new car. Oh, I was so excited going shopping for it, buying it, and collecting it. I was so proud of the fresh number plate. Again, the hedonistic happiness was there but within a couple of months it was just a car. A lot of years were spent saying “when I have this …………… I will be happy, when I have that ……………….. I will be happy”. And I was for a time, but this kind of hedonistic happiness does not last.

The type of happiness I strive for now is so different, I now look at my wellbeing as my greatest factor for happiness. Am I happy mentally, physically, and spiritually?

With less stress in my life yes, I am happier mentally. I have Fybromyalgia, so physically I am not 100% but I could be so much worse. On days I am not feeling so bad, I get up, show up and get on with life. I am grateful for all that I have. Am I happy spiritually? Yes, I am.

One of my favourite sayings is “This is not a rehearsal” we have been blessed with this life and how we go through it is up to us. Each and everyone one of us has been given the gift of free will, so we can choose to be happy with what we have or miserable wanting what someone else has. I know the choice I have made. What choice have you made?

Make a deal with yourself this week. Sit with a cup of Tea, coffee, or whatever your choice of beverage, and think about the question, “What Does Happiness Mean To Me”?

Have a pen and paper at the ready and write down your answer. Is it materialistic items that make you happy or are you happy within?

Are you happy Mentally, Physically and Spiritually?

Here are a few tips to help you live a happier life:

  • Find purpose and meaning
  • Step out of your comfort zone
  • Look for happiness even if life is hard at times
  • Express gratitude
  • Eliminate negative thoughts
  • Take regular exercise
  • Practice Mindfulness
  • Stop comparing your life with others.

Published by Mary Dunne

My name is Mary from Yana Life Coach Service. I am an Accredited Life coach. I coach people who want to improve their self-confidence, self-belief and self-esteem. I also encourage people who are fearful of stepping outside their comfort zone to take that first and most important step. The reason I excel as a life coach is because I've been in that very same position until I trained as a Life coach. I decided to study Life coaching as I had always been passionate about helping people be the best versions of themselves. I became the best version of myself during this time. I had suffered desperately with self-confidence and self-esteem issues. I was always afraid to step out of my comfort zone, I had very little self-belief, thinking this is where my safe place was, but I soon found it was not a place that made me happy. There was so much I wanted to do but fear held me back. While I was studying for my accreditation, I learned so much about myself. I became more confident; my self-esteem improved no end and I stepped out of that comfort zone. I now work with clients one to one, I also run workshops. These workshops include a Happiness workshop, Step out in confidence workshop, Self-Awareness workshops and Goal Setting workshops. After each of these workshops you will leave feeling more confident about yourself and your abilities. I know you have probably heard these words a million times, " If I can do it anyone can", I really mean this. I was a total mess walking into my first day of the Life coaching class at the age of 46yrs, but I was not a mess leaving it. It really was the best decision of my life. I am who I am today because of it. I have become the best version of myself, now let me help you become the best version of yourself.

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