This is a great question to get you thinking about what it is that holds you back, from doing what it is, you want to do.
Please sit with this question for a few moments before reading any further.
I recall a time when so many things held me back from moving forward. FEAR was the main issue I had. I feared what people would think of me, I feared being a failure, truthfully, I even feared becoming successful.
You might think to yourself, I can understand the first two fears, but fearing becoming successful, what is that all about? Isn’t that what we all want?
What I have since learned about myself is that I had been lacking big time in self-esteem, self-worth, and self-confidence. I was my own worst critic. I had a little bitch inside my head I call “Negative Nelly” constantly telling me I was no good, I couldn’t achieve what others had, I was a fraud, who was I to help people live happier lives? What do I know? (do any of these thoughts sound familiar?) It was only when I learned to silence her or at least send her on vacation for a while, that I could see how much damage I was doing to myself with all this negative self-talk.
I had been bullied most of my life by adults, teachers, work colleagues, work supervisors, even my tutor who I had during my year spent studying to become a Life coach. I allowed Negative Nelly to play a big part in my thoughts about myself and so I allowed this behaviour in my life. I had no idea what boundaries were, so I never had any in place.
Putting boundaries in place and eliminating tolerations one by one was truly life changing. I stopped allowing people to speak and treat me in anyway that made me feel uncomfortable. That goes for my own negative thoughts as well. I became more assertive. Nellie was pushed gently to one side and Motivational Mary emerged.
It is since qualifying as a Life coach and then continuing my self-development studies I have become aware of who Mary Dunne is, not what other people had me believe about myself. I now like myself, there are times I even love myself; I have let go of a lot of the fears I had conditioned myself to have. I know I am worthy of success.
I no longer fear what people think of me. There is a great saying ‘what others think or say about me is none of my business’. I no longer fear being a failure. I believe the saying “The only people who fail are those who have never tried”.
Success does not frighten me anymore. If there is something, I do not know there is always someone out there who will help. Success comes in many different forms, being a successful student, a successful parent, a successful business partner, achieving fame, achieving wealth, living a happy life is being successful.
So, when I sat with this question ‘Is there something I should let go of to be able to move forward’? my answer was “YES definitely”. First and foremost, silence Nellie, let go of my fears, step out of my comfort zone, take chances, and believe, what is meant for me will not pass me by.
Motivational Mary is who I am today for both myself and my clients. Nellie has since taken a back seat.
Now I ask you to contemplate this same question,
‘Is there something you should let go of to be able to move forward’?