What if everything is as it should be? How would that make you feel?

What if everything is as it should be? How would that make you feel?

I have not been feeling the best lately. I am anxious about my job, there have been some changes of late, and the not knowing how it is all going to pan out is driving me crazy.  I have an upcoming Cornea transplant in the next few weeks and my thoughts are everywhere.  My mind monkey (Negative Nelly) has been more in control than my rational mind.

UNTIL TODAY……

I pulled this question from one of my favourite Card decks, called “Empowering questions” and it helped to slow my mind down and really think about this question.

‘What if everything is as it should be? How would that make me feel’?

Thinking about this rationally, if everything is as it should be at this moment in time, it helps me to feel a bit calmer. It helps me to realise that life is not happening to me, and I feel like less of a victim having a massive pity party.

 I have been focusing on the outcome of my worries, instead of looking at my thoughts which are creating the feelings I am having, which then leads to my behaviour, and the result which has me feeling quite anxious and down, not sleeping well, heavy head, tension in my back and shoulders and jaw clenching. Wow, just wow and I am doing all of this to myself because I have allowed my Negative Nelly to take control.

Now, when I think about the above question, everything is as it should be, I think this is life, things change. Crap happens to us in our lifetime, and it is how we respond to these events that determines how we feel, the behaviour we display, and the result.

Today I realise the pity party is over, I am all partied out. Negative Nelly has left the building.

I cannot control what may happen in my job and worrying about something that has not or may never happen is a complete waste of my time and energy. My operation is going to happen because it must.  There is no other alternative. So now I am looking at the positive. My surgeon hopes to give me more sight in this eye because of this operation. I also must show gratitude for the donor and his/her family, because without them this operation would not happen. I also must remember I am the recipient rather than the donor.

With this new perspective and attitude of gratitude, I now know that life is happening for me not to me. I feel a lot better, more relaxed about what is coming, and now it is time for a good long walk to clear the rubbish I have been carrying around for too long. Everything is as it should be!

What is happening in your life that your mind monkey is now in control, and is throwing one hell of a pity party? 

I leave you with this same question:

Take some alone time and really ask yourself this question and then allow yourself to really think about it.

 ‘What if everything is as it should be? How would that make me feel’?

If you need any help answering this question, remember, You Are Not Alone.

Contact me at (353)0863201483 to help you to gain a new perspective and to feel better.

Everything is as it should be!