What if everything is as it should be? How would that make you feel?

What if everything is as it should be? How would that make you feel?

I have not been feeling the best lately. I am anxious about my job, there have been some changes of late, and the not knowing how it is all going to pan out is driving me crazy.  I have an upcoming Cornea transplant in the next few weeks and my thoughts are everywhere.  My mind monkey (Negative Nelly) has been more in control than my rational mind.


I pulled this question from one of my favourite Card decks, called “Empowering questions” and it helped to slow my mind down and really think about this question.

What if everything is as it should be? How would that make me feel’?

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Thinking about this rationally, if everything is as it should be at this moment in time, it helps me to feel a bit calmer. It helps me to realise that life is not happening to me, and I feel like less of a victim having a massive pity party.

 I have been focusing on the outcome of my worries, instead of looking at my thoughts which are creating the feelings I am having, which then leads to my behaviour, and the result which has me feeling quite anxious and down, not sleeping well, heavy head, tension in my back and shoulders and jaw clenching. Wow, just wow and I am doing all of this to myself because I have allowed my Negative Nelly to take control.

Now, when I think about the above question, everything is as it should be, I think this is life, things change. Crap happens to us in our lifetime, and it is how we respond to these events that determines how we feel, the behaviour we display, and the result.

Today I realise the pity party is over, I am all partied out. Negative Nelly has left the building.

I cannot control what may happen in my job and worrying about something that has not or may never happen is a complete waste of my time and energy. My operation is going to happen because it must.  There is no other alternative. So now I am looking at the positive. My surgeon hopes to give me more sight in this eye because of this operation. I also must show gratitude for the donor and his/her family, because without them this operation would not happen. I also must remember I am the recipient rather than the donor.

With this new perspective and attitude of gratitude, I now know that life is happening for me not to me. I feel a lot better, more relaxed about what is coming, and now it is time for a good long walk to clear the rubbish I have been carrying around for too long. Everything is as it should be!

What is happening in your life that your mind monkey is now in control, and is throwing one hell of a pity party? 

I leave you with this same question:

Take some alone time and really ask yourself this question and then allow yourself to really think about it.

 ‘What if everything is as it should be? How would that make me feel’?

If you need any help answering this question, remember, You Are Not Alone.

Contact me at (353)0863201483 to help you to gain a new perspective and to feel better.

Everything is as it should be!

Published by Mary Dunne

My name is Mary from Yana Life Coach Service. I am an Accredited Life coach. I coach people who want to improve their self-confidence, self-belief and self-esteem. I also encourage people who are fearful of stepping outside their comfort zone to take that first and most important step. The reason I excel as a life coach is because I've been in that very same position until I trained as a Life coach. I decided to study Life coaching as I had always been passionate about helping people be the best versions of themselves. I became the best version of myself during this time. I had suffered desperately with self-confidence and self-esteem issues. I was always afraid to step out of my comfort zone, I had very little self-belief, thinking this is where my safe place was, but I soon found it was not a place that made me happy. There was so much I wanted to do but fear held me back. While I was studying for my accreditation, I learned so much about myself. I became more confident; my self-esteem improved no end and I stepped out of that comfort zone. I now work with clients one to one, I also run workshops. These workshops include a Happiness workshop, Step out in confidence workshop, Self-Awareness workshops and Goal Setting workshops. After each of these workshops you will leave feeling more confident about yourself and your abilities. I know you have probably heard these words a million times, " If I can do it anyone can", I really mean this. I was a total mess walking into my first day of the Life coaching class at the age of 46yrs, but I was not a mess leaving it. It really was the best decision of my life. I am who I am today because of it. I have become the best version of myself, now let me help you become the best version of yourself.

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