Have you ever taken the time to ask yourself this question?

Each time I work with a client and just before I run through the values clarification exercise, I will always ask them “Who are you?”

Each time they will rattle off a load of roles, such as, I am a mother, a wife, a sister, a waitress, a cleaner, and it goes on.

They find it so easy to tell me what role they play.  I will then say to them again “Who are you? not the role that you play but the person that you are”.

 Let us start by saying “I Am” ………………………..,  There is usually  complete silence for a while, and then the words “oh god, I don’t know how to answer that”.

I find this quite sad as it seems so many of us have no idea who we are until asked to put it into words, and even then, we must think about this question.

So, let me ask you, “Who are you”?

Are you compassionate?  Are you kind?  Are you loving?  Are you curious?  Are you respectful?  Are you Private? and the list can go on and on.

We are all different and so we will all have our own set of values. These values make up who we are at our very core. They will also be seen in the roles that we play, but it is in knowing that we are not the role, but the real person beneath the role that is important.

Amazingly when we are young, this is when we are sure of who we are.  I asked this same question to my nine-year-old nephew a few years ago, and he had absolutely no problem whatsoever in telling me who he was and still is.

I wonder is it because at this age he did not focus on roles? Is it that he had not lost himself because of roles he played or life’s lessons?

If a child can be so sure of who he is at that young age, what has happened to us as adults to have to think about who we are?

I run self-awareness workshops. These are run over six weeks at two hours per night.

It is amazing to see adults become aware of who they are, and not just the roles they play. These ladies usually leave feeling so much more confident and new goals are usually put in place. 

Let me tell you who am. I am a Life, confidence, and mindset coach. (This is my role) I Am, Kind, compassionate, caring, loving, loyal, non-judgmental, respectful, a motivator, I like to make a difference in this world, I’m easy to talk to, down to earth, and so much more.

Now let me ask you again, “Who are you?